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I've had this one guy who told me that he wanted me to be his baby's mama. I really do like him. I get scared every time I talk to him. I feel comfortable around him a lot of times but sometimes I feel uncomfortable. What should I do? I have one word for you...RUN! What's this dude doing telling you he wants you to have his baby!? Tell this guy thanks for the compliment but nobody's gonna be swimming around in your gene pool until you got a wedding ring around your finger! Stay away from this guy for a couple of weeks and then see how he's behaving. Young men need to exercise self-control with their words as well as their bodies. He needs to honor you in word and deed. The only way you should spend any time with this guy is in a group, NEVER alone, in public, in daylight. I feel really guilty about a former relationship. We didn't do anything at all, but I slept over a few times. We were good friends, we came close to doing something but we didn't. I'm going to see her this summer and I'm worried. It sounds like you need more supervision. Talk to your parents and ask them to help you. Parents and friends can provide good accountability because they can help us maintain healthy standards and physical boundaries. If you're struggling with temptation, then it only makes sense to limit your contact with this girl and just get to know her as friends. Keep your hands to yourself and you will feel better about yourself. Maybe you can email her and tell her how you feel and get this stuff worked out before the next time you see each other. Now don't be trippin' when I say this, but have you ever thought that you owe this young lady an apology? It might make you feel a lot better if you asked her to forgive you for crossing over the line physically with her. A sincere apology like, "Shannon, I've been thinking about the stuff we did last time we were together and I just don't feel good about it. We shouldn't have gone that far and I'm really sorry I didn't treat you like a lady. Will you please forgive me?" That could be such an encouragement to her and help her reconsider her own physical boundaries. Don't sleep over either, have your folks talk to her parents and tell them you no longer are available for overnight visits. I have a friend...well she's not my friend anymore because of her sexual activities. She's done and let people do to her almost everything. She is known as the "school slut" and that if any of the guys want to have any sexual things done, to just call her. Her reputations pulled her away from everything. What can I do to help her? It's a shame when our friends make regrettable decisions. It doesn't take a lot for rumors to be spread all over the place. Now with everyone instant messaging and blogging all over the place, it's absolutely possible for gossip to go around the world in no time at all. Here's what Espresso thinks you should do: Don't participate in the gossip, tell others to be quiet when they talk badly about her Keep healthy distance between you and this girl. If you think this is a wise, invite her to participate in some healthy activities that might help change other's opinions of her. Say hello to her and still be kind. She might really need a friend Pray/meditate - there is power in offering up prayers for hurting people *Why do guys only like girls who are small and have no brains?* NOT TRUE! Although typically guys are more visually attracted to someone, a mature and emotionally healthy young man wants more from his lady. Guys have more going on in their lives then raging hormones and if you don't agree, let me suggest you find a new group of fellas to check out. Pornography can mess up a guy's mind and make them think only about private parts. Music videos would make you think that guys only want girls with big boobs, round booties and teeny, tiny little bathing suits. But a man of integrity will desire a lady who can do more than shake her tail feather! Give it time and you will find a guy who will value your mind and respect your body. Until then, don't stereotype the fellas, as most ladies already know they take a little more time to grow up. *What is a good limit for kids in high school?* If you can't do it in front of your parents, then don't do it at all. If it involves removing, unbuttoning, unzipping any article of clothing, not a good idea. If it makes either one of you uncomfortable, stop! If you find yourself depressed or confused afterward, don't do that again. If you feel pressured or forced to participate in a sexual activity, push away from that person and leave immediately. If you have been drinking or taking any kind of mood altering substance, your judgment could be seriously impaired. That would not be a good time to get physically involved. Kissing - forehead, cheek Hands - holding hands Anything else and you could be inching toward deeper physical involvement. *Here are some alternatives:* Make sure your family and friends know and approve of this relationship. If they don't ask them why. Listen carefully to their answers. People who love you usually want the best for you and can see things differently. Come home earlier. Hang out with friends and family. Let them get to know your sweetie. *Why would someone not be able to get over a relationship?* Regrets - too involved physically or emotionally Might trigger feelings of other losses in life - like parents divorcing, losing a loved one, moving to another school/town Bonding - we connect with people and it is natural to feel badly when a relationship ends. Depending on the level of connection, we could have stronger feelings that make it more painful The manner in which the relationship ended - who broke up with whom, what was the reason, what happened next-these could all effect your ability to get over a relationship. Other factors: If your bf/gf moved immediately to another relationship that could really hurt. If your bf/gf decided to go out with your best friend, that would be quite painful. If that person wounded your heart and was cruel to you, emotional scars could run deep. If you became pregnant, got a someone pregnant, received or passed on a sexually transmitted disease, that can naturally make a break up more emotional *Recommendations* Counseling Take a break from relationships and give yourself time to heal Make better decisions in the future about the people you hang with Listen to your friends and family's advice about the person you're interested in. Often those people love and know you the best and can offer wisdom that can help. Set firmer boundaries to ensure your physical and emotional wellbeing. Get to know someone over a long What went on during the relationship could factor into

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